Porn: Only the worst is willing to be seen

I think it is a tragedy that the only ones willing to show how sex is done are the ones who are willing and able to show us how it should not be done.

Like many men the only way I was taught about relating to a woman sexually was though pornography. Unfortunately my dad's dad never talk to him about it and my dad never talked to me about it. I basically had no clue until I saw my first porno at age 17. What are some of the lessons I learned? 1. The woman is ALWAYS ready. 2. The woman has a greater sex drive than the man. 3. The woman does not need warming up. 4. The woman is there at the pleasure of the man. 5. The woman services the man then they have intercourse then he ejaculates on her and both are fulfilled and happy. 6. Oh ya, women always have perfect bodies. Do we see a tragedy yet?

Today's online pornography is even worse. Today's youth are being taught 1. All of the above. 2. Women like to be abused. 3. Women like to be called names and have unlimited amounts of bodily fluids all over them. 4. Women like it when several men abuse them at once. 5. Woman are no more than pieces of meat that want to do anything and everything the group of men decide. Do we see an even greater tragedy evolving? Why are these the only things that we see?

Let's back up a little. What if a young man's parents have a happy, healthy marital sex life? Dad can tell his son how to treat a woman and show him how he treats mom outside the bedroom but obviously he cannot show his son visually inside the bedroom. This is where good adults are hamstrung. The youth do not see what it good and healthy primarily due to morally obvious reasons.

In a perfectly upstanding world we would have videos were women are loved and cherished before, during and after sex; where it shows how long it needs to take a women to warm up; where it shows a couple that actually loves one another and is married. BUT this is the ultimate catch 22. The couples that love each other enough to have a healthy sex life are the least likely to perform in front of a camera.

It is the perverted sex and the distorted sex and the couples that don't love one another that perform for the whole world to see. What if the only sex that was available to see was the kind where the woman is treated like gold and there is love and mutual giving between the couple? I understand I am being pollyanic. The truth is that porn markets to our lowest instincts. It is made to please men and show a fantasy where a man doesn't have to do anything to a woman in order have her jump all over him. That is what sells.

So to summarize; That which is bad for us and instills innacuracies and perversions in our young men is found EVERYWHERE. But that which is healthy, loving and accurate is too embarrasing to show our young men and it is found NOWHERE.

I am not advocating that loving, honest, clean married couples drop their personal convitions and their inhibitions in order to provide instruction to our youth about sex. I am merely pointing out the irony of who is afraid to teach about sex and who is not afraid.

We all pay the price.