This Blog contains references to sites that most would find vile and offensive. If you have a proclivity to porn addiction please consider not reading this blog. My intention is not to feed your addiction but to illustrate how bad it is getting. Do not read this blog if you believe you will be negatively affected by discussion of vile sites on the internet.Porn has taken on a drastic change with the advent of the internet and the unlimited competition for viewers. This has nuclear-bombed the envelope in what is porn and what is sex between consenting adults.
Pornography used to be some semblance of a plot, poor dialogue then quickly jumping in the sack. Usually one guy and one gal participating in mutual pleasure, although mostly favoring the man. There would sometimes be the edgy videos where more than 2 people would participate. But that was basically the genre.
The internet has taken this to a whole new level. There seems to be a central theme to most of the new porn on the internet. Yes women have always been considered in porn to be objects and to have the sex drive of a man but today the focus is moving further to blatent degredation, humiliation and abuse. Even more tragic is there is absolutely no shortage of young women who volunteer for this for a little money. Most sites are totally open about referring to women as pieces of meat (there is a site called "Meatholes" with no shortage of girls) or whores or just totally there to service men and being thrown in the garbage when done.
- Why would a young woman agree to perform in "Gagging Whores" where several men shove their fists down her throat, spit in her mouth, slap her face, call her names, hold her nose while they are shoving their privates in her mouth until she vomits, pull her hair, then ejaculate on her?
- What kind of girl would let 100 guys to ejaculate on her face? I have read interviews and these girls say they "like the attention". That may give some insight into potentially a lack of a loving father in their young lives.
- What kind of young girl would want to be 1 of 5 or 6 girls that has sex with 1 guy in one session? How detached must she have to be to allow a man to have intercourse with her after he was just having intercourse with 5 other girls?
- Why would a girl agree to being called a "Pissmop" and to having her face urinated on and her mouth urinated in by several guys then told to say "hi daddy" into the camera?
- What kind of young girl would agree to be in a movie called "Young, Dumb and full of C*m"? (I'm sorry I couldn't write it)
- Why would a 19 year old girl allow 4,5,10,15,50,200 guys inside of her in one session? Is the money that good?? Some say it is.
- Why would a girl want to be with "Max Harcore" whose only m.o. is to make them gag, vomit, drink all his bodily fluids and eventually be broken and cry?
You know, I only (not to minimize the damage) viewed the stuff. Someday these 18, 19, 20, 21, 22 year old girls will be 25, 30, 35, 40 and will hopefully have a husband. She will look in his eyes and want to be loved but what she did as a younger women will be still be in her brain and probably still purchaseable on the internet. This will hinder the potential true joy she should be feeling with a truly loving husband. Many of these young girls, by the fact that they have allowed themselves to be abused in porn, probably have little self-esteem anyway and a tendency toward a poor relationship with men. Finding a loving man may be something they may never know how to do. How would any guy feel knowing there are videos on the internet of his wife - the mother of his children - doing sexual acts with groups of strange men? Contrast that with a man who marries a virgin. Think about it ...
If the ladies have not contracted a disease that renders them incapable of carrying a child, then they may someday give birth to a new life. This is when what they did on film, when they were young, may emotionally break them. The money they made for participating in the abuse is long spent BUT the video is still out there and will forever be out there on someone's harddrive. How can they not fear that this innocent little life may someday see what mom did when she was young? These women basically have to spend the rest of their lives worrying that their kids may see what they did. If you don't agree that they will worry about it then you probably don't have children.
What about the men in these videos? There is the site where the 1 man gets to have 5 or 6 women at once. It is called The Lucky Man. I actually prefer to think of him as the Unlucky Man and his future wife the Very Unlucky Wife. In the Lucky man he is serviced by several women without having to emotionally connect with any of them. Someday when he is older and wants to keep a wife he is going to have to connect with her emotionally. His brain will always remember what is was like to be with 5 girls at once. As much fun (though emotionally detached) that he had for that hour, he was really not being loved by these women. They were getting paid to be with him and to have sex with him. And how can his future wife ever compete with that. How can she ever accept it? What happens if his daughter were to one day see it?
What about the men who partcipate in the videos that openly and joyfully degrade and abuse women? These men have no idea what damage they are doing to themselves, their ability to connect to a wife in the future, their ability to have loving sexual relations with anyone. I don't say this lightly. Once they have crossed the bridge where they can only be turned on when they are degrading a woman, a return to a normal view of sexuality may nearly be impossile to acheive. It will take many years of healing to rewire the way they think, if they agree that they are indeed brain damaged. I intentionally chose "brain damaged" because their sexual and emotional psyche has been perverted, altered and damaged to such a degree healing will be painful, if indeed healing is sought.
I believe the long term relational and phsychological effects of participating in these videos is, I feel, undeniable. Now let's change gears. What about the 11 year old boy that is surfing the internet on a computer without a filter? What about the day he discovers "Meatholes"? Will he seek out an 11 year old female classmate for a kiss? Or will that not be enough? When I was 12 I found porno magazines that distorted my view of sex and how women are to be treated. My subsequent viewing of porn entrenched that line of thinking for much of my adult life. It is only through an immersion in Jesus Christ and an active fleeing from porn that I am SLOWLY being healed and being able to see what I have been missing. The further I move from Porn the more I have been able to feel what it is to truly love my wife and be loved by her and to be actually connected to her emotionally.
But what about that 11 year old that stumbles on one of those sites? He is immediately being taught, not just that women are there to serve men, but that they are to be abused and degraded - and the women like it.... Since porn is progressive and the user always needs something more vile to get the same "high", where can this 11 year old go except one step closer to something unlawful?
It pains my heart to see future mommys and daddys morgaging their emotional future for a little money today without even knowing it. Someday the girls will be 25 and used up. There will be a thousand girls with younger faces who are not yet jaded that will take their place. It pains me that any 13 year old can fill his young head with the degredation of women as he gets inadvertantly educated on sexuality via his internet connection.
My friends, we are in a real dangerous place. God help our young people involved in internet porn and those, young and old, who view it.
(This blog was originally posted in April 2006 on a different blog site that I no longer post at.)
